"When a glass is broken, the sound of breaking disappears immediately whereas the glass pieces are scattered over the ground hurting whoever walks over it".
Similarly, "when you say something that hurts people's emotions and feelings,the voice disappears immediately but the heart remains in pain for long."
Therefore, don't say anything, except good and remember always the nine advices and prohibitions that Allah Almighty gave us in Surat ul-Hujurat (The Sura of Islamic manners) before you say something to anyone:
"Fa Tabayyanu": Investigate: when you receive an information, lest you harm people out of ignorance.
2 - فأصلحوا:
"Fa Aslihu": Reconcile: between your brothers, as believers are brothers.
"Wa Aqsitoo": Act justly: whenever there is a dispute try for settlement and act justly among both parties as Allah loves those who act justly.
4 - لا يسخر:
"La Yaskhar": Don't ridicule people, perhaps they may be better than you to Allah.
5 - ولا تلمزوا:
"Wa La Talmizu": Do not insult one another.
6- ولا تنابزوا:
"Wa La Tanabazu": Do not call each other with offensive nicknames.
7- اجتنبوا كثيرا من الظن:
"Ijtanibu Katheeran minath than": Avoid negative assumptions, indeed some of the assumptions are sins.
8 - ولا تجسسوا:
"Wa La Tajassasu" Do not spy on each other.
9- ولا يغتب بعضكم بعضا:
"Wa La Yaghtab": Do not backbite each other. It's a major sin equivalent to eating your dead brother's flesh.
Lastly Allah said in the Qur'an "remind, for the reminder benefits the believers".
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